《The Advice Column IV》605
Advertisement
This person wants advice on a situation that recently developed over trust.
I'm sorry you've been feeling this way for so long. We've gotten requests pertaining to a number of mental health issues, but as far as I can remember there hasn't been a request about Reactive Attachment Disorder yet. Keep in mind that we at The Advice Column are not professionals and cannot diagnose or treat mental health disorders, however, we will do our best to give you helpful advice.
Based on your request, I can see that there is definitely a lack of trust between you and your parents and, while I cannot say whether or not you do in fact have RAD, I can look at the surface level. Let's start with that. Trust issues are generally formed when one fails to meet the other's expectations. In your case, your parents don't seem to be listening to you. You told us you made a cry for help and that your mother shut it down. This is something that needs to be addressed. The first step here would be to try to open lines of communication between you and your parents. Try talking to them again. Maybe talk to your dad about how you've been feeling, and then bring your mom in. If that doesn't work, then we'll move to the next step.
I know you said you can't talk to someone about this, but I want you to ask yourself if you are happy with where you are. Are you? Based on your request, it seems like you are not. Nothing will change if you sit by and wait for them to change their minds or for you to be old enough to move out. Change is hard and it takes work, but weathering the storm is better than staying where you are. Keep this in mind. It's something you need to think about.
Advertisement
When it comes down to it, I think the best thing to do is to talk to a psychiatrist. It would be beneficial if you could talk to your parents in a monitored therapy session as well. That way, you can say what you've been feeling, and your parents can't shut you down. You would all be able to talk with a mediator to help keep the situation from becoming explosive and reactive. That way, it won't be as much of a confrontation as a healthy, necessary conversation. I suggest bringing it up with you parents. If it would make you more comfortable to talk to a psychiatrist on your own first, then you can work up to bringing your parents into the conversation. Either way, it is in my personal opinion that talking to a professional would be the best thing for this situation.
Mental health is very important, girl. You can be healthy as a horse physically, but if your mental health is crumbling then you're not truly healthy. You need to talk to someone. Get all these pent up emotions out and into the open. Once you're in a place where you can let them go, life will get so much brighter. Trust me, I know! That won't happen though if you keep holding all that crap inside and pushing everyone away. I know sometimes it seems easier to be distant and protect yourself, but you're only hurting yourself, hun. You need to let go of the emotional baggage holding you down and let people in. Start small. Talk to the friends you have. Form bonds with them. Talk to the ones you feel are most dependable, and talk to a professional who can give you the help you need to succeed. I hope this helps!
Stay strong,
The Advice Column Team
Advertisement
Agnes' Journey to Become an Archimage
The balance in the magical world of Tyrain is shifting. The monster menace grows stronger, the bureaucracy of the ancient empire grows corrupt and the nations engage in constant warfare. Change is coming, will Agnes be able to adapt to a world in chaos, becoming a true mage, or will she fall.
8 153Of Us and Void
A scientist named Gino Faulkner, distraught by the hopelessness of society, attempts to fix several of its problems by creating a new renewable energy source - only to discover that some things may be better off left alone. When a test trial of the energy source incomprehensibly malfunctions, Gino finds himself on the brink of saving or destroying the very reality he had attempted to correct. --- Hey! Author here, just wanted to say that if the synopsis did not sound as exciting as I had hoped it would be, try reading the first 10 chapters? I promise it won't be terrible! :) Whoops, forgot to mention, prologues don't count as chapters! If you've read this far, I might as well tell you what I was inspired by! However, this does NOT mean my story will be similiar in any way to the novels/stories/books listed below. By 'inspiration,' I refer to mainly how the characterizations plot devices, dialogue, conflict introduction/resolution, and thought processes are used and introduced in those works of literature. But in a way, you can interpret this list as, "if the author read and was inspired by these novels, then it's possible that we share similiar tastes, so I'll give this story a try." :) -Those Who Aspired to Become Gods: A darker fairy tale novel (My all-time fantasy favorite despite it being unfinished) -Forgotten Conqueror (Second all-time fantasy favorite) -Brandon Sanderson's The Reckoning trilogy (Third all-time fantasy favorite) -Kel Kade's 'King's Dark Tidings' -Brent Week's Night Angel saga -Red Rising trilogy -Infinite Realm: Monsters & Legends -Reborn: Apocalypse -Reborn: Evolving From Nothing -48 Hours a Day -The New World -Creep -Arrogant Young Master Template A Variation 4 -Can't Cure Deceit -Super Minion -Unparalleled -Unbound -Wake of the Ravager -Overgeared -Solo Leveling -The Tutorial Is Too Hard [email protected] -God of Money -A Snake's Life -The Snake Report -The Tower of God -UnOrdinary -Release that Witch!
8 190(Stare and See) Beyond the Veil
Jose wanted to be an adventurer like his mother. But when he learned he was Hollow, his future dissolved into the Onesea. He stagnated on his roving colony vessel and grew up, longing for the life he could not have. That is, until the colony makes a discovery of a lifetime. Facing creatures in a peculiar landscape and conspiracies from within, Jose will use the little magic he can wield and the support of his loving partner and friends to achieve his dream and shake of the shadows of his past.Updates are on hold until my life unknots itself.
8 87Blue Mage Strives for the Level Cap! Adapt!
After being invited to participate in the Beta run of a new Full-Immersion Virtual Reality RPG, Ardacen Winters and 1999 others learn that it is also a race to reach the level cap of one hundred. The prizes are grand, but the chance to be the first players in this new game might be worth more than the prizes themselves. This is a Lit-RPG, a humble homage to all the others who precede it and hopefully an inspiration to anyone with a story in their own head that needs to be shared.
8 157Throne Quest Online: Pixel Courage
It's a world of monsters and magic, thrills and treasure. But, as people soon begin to find out, it's so much more than that.What were the programmers thinking? How could they unleash this VR-MMO into the world?
8 105The Assistant | Pietro Maximoff x Reader
Y/n L/n is just a normal girl. At least, that's what she tells the Avengers when she starts to work for Tony Stark as his assistant.Reached Number 1 in:#marvel#pietromaximoff#pietroxreader#pietromaximoffxreader#steverogers#visionReached Number 3 in:#fanfiction
8 112