After losing my ability to orgasm at the age of thirteen due to heartbreak, it took me years to learn the whole truth about why. Below I'll explain my journey of learning about why I lost my orgasm and how I could get it back.

When I was thirteen I didn't know any scientific facts about orgasms. I didn't know the pelvic floor muscles were involved, that they had health benefits, or that someone could lose their ability to orgasm.

I believed that I would never be able to achieve an orgasm again for the rest of my life unless I could stop feeling heartbroken. So for many years I believed I would only get back my orgasm after being happily romantically entangled with someone again. Problem is, I never felt that level of romantic happiness again.

After the guy who I romantically loved far more than any other guy broke my heart, I was too heartbroken to feel like I would ever want to be romantic with any other guy for the rest of my life, which made me believe I had no chance of having an orgasm ever again.

In time, I discovered that my theory of being unable to orgasm if I was heartbroken was false. I learned that I had gotten over the psychological block at some point, and that there had been different reasons for my inability to orgasm over time.

Initially, it was just a psychological block from heartbreak. After my psychological block faded, I believe that I would have been able to orgasm if I had only had a strong enough vibrator. For whatever reason, the vibrating massager that I had gotten when I was thirteen wasn't enough for me anymore. It wasn't because it got weaker over time, because I kept getting new vibrating massagers of the same type as the one with which I shared my first orgasm. At age twenty-four, I finally got a sex toy vibrator with strong vibration, and it gave me sufficient stimulation, but my pelvic floor muscles had become too weak to have an orgasm.

So, my goal became to strengthen my pelvic floor muscles to the point of being able to achieve orgasm again.