Idc what the world says

Idk or care what Google or people around you told you.

You all have the wrong meaning fixed in your brain. Or maybe, confuse traits of a social person with being social.

Being social is about interacting with people. It's not about bonding with them. Most of those who think they're not "social" is cause the less number of friends they have and how much they get nervous when they want to make friends with someone, or how nobody talks with them.

Fun fact. I have less friends, I get hella nervous and stumble on my words when I really want to make friends with someone. And wish that I could run away or ground would swallow me up.

Difficult to believe?

Well yes

ITS TRUE

I'm a social person.

But my in real life best friends literally called me

"Anti-social"

That made me go nuts, she is very close to me so how come could she say smth wrong about me? Everyone knows I am social person.

Btw, wrong about me doesn't mean insulting me. It means stating a wrong fact.

I am a chatterbox, so making a convo go on is my specialty once I'm in my element. I just don't interact with everyone.

And a few days ago, one of my friend called herself " I am not social... I guess..."

Trust me she is social.

After thinking about it, it hit me

The REAL Meaning of being social, and why my best friend called me anti social.

Actually, the real meaning I got when my friend called herself not social.

People get so focused on number of friends you have, the more u have = more social person you are

Social means Talking and initiating small talks and stuff,

Dude

Damn wrong. That MIGHT be trait of social person or mainly a social butterfly.

Social means interacting with people, environment, animals, the world around you.

Human beings are social creature by birth! We all know that fact!

Then why the hell do people think they're not social?! Why the hell does society so much idealise on "be social"!?

It's similar how people confuse the fact that I being the chatterbox means I am good at talking and bad at listening.

First, I love talking, I love it when people talk to me, I love conversations that tells u about another person personality. THAT IS WHAT I MEAN WHEN I SAY I LOVE TALKING!

Also I don't like people interrupting me when I am not finished, I give other chance to talk, I don't speak in between or try to control it, so if ur talking about something random happening with u while I am talking? Then I am a very bad listener. I hurriedly close my topic, so that the front person speaks, and if I know the front person is not a usual talker, I immediately shut myself to let them talk

A social person can and IS a listener, someone who listens, says few words in between. Because

Dude

THAT PERSON

INTERACTS WITH PEOPLE

Speaking doesn't mean interacting. One can speak to themselves too.

Anyways, if you don't MIND interacting with people around u, you're social. Does t matter if u don't know how to, or stumble on ur words. Socialising is a task and does takes time, it's ok.

But don't let "not social person" or "I am less social" be what's holding u back for doing something, or talking to some old friend or your favourite actor or something of your interest.

Don't use that as an excuse.

Anyways my best friend irl called me anti social cause

Apparently with few people I refuse to socialise. I'll rather stand by myself rather than a group where I am doing nothing but standing like a fool. Nope. And I don't call people on random, lost touch with quite old classmates and didn't care if I did. I was and am happy with who all I have

Hence

I didn't interact with people, was against the idea thus anti social. But I am a social person cause I usually interact. If I want I could initiate small talks too. But that's lame

So yeah there's that.

Social doesn't mean going out of comfort zone, Doing what people tell you to do, doing what they do for the sake of fitting In. No way in hell It means that.

Even a social butterfly may not socialise with pervs, or jerks or someone of low standard or someone of high standard. That social butterfly becomes anti social.

So that's what it means to be social.

Also social butterfly May have a lot of fake friends too, or those who aren't permanent in his/her life and will go away.

Being social is just

It's just interacting with people.

That's all.

Or what I think what social means anyway.

What about you?

I could be wrong. But this is my perspective nonetheless.

This is insane, and wattpad is drunk

Thanks anyway