I've had a crush on this guy for like 2 or 3 years out of the 5 years I've known him. Well not really him, more like his existence.

Three years ago, at the very beginning of my crush, it was all cool. Like a tiny little infatuation and I did pretty well with getting over him after a few weeks of me liking him. Then a few months later my BFF dared me to ask him out and I refused so she did it for me (she never knew I liked him). Then my other BFF caught on and she was like "you two are similar in height and you would look cute together."

And a few weeks after, I started to like him. Once again, it was just a shallow infatuation with me thinking he's cute. It was like this for the rest of year: an on and off crush where I would blush, get butterflies in my stomach, giggle and have my knees go weak every now and then when I see him. Then at the start of this year, I started falling hard. I'd see him do little things and my mind would subconsciously make these little notes about him.

He seems to go for the popular type and I'm not popular. I'm not as pretty as his ex's either. It's kind of obvious I'm not his type but I still can't get over him.

Also another girl, my somewhat friend, likes him and I think he might like her back. There was a day a few months ago when I was over him. Key word: day. I know we won't ever be together and I can't ever get over him and stay like that and it's annoying. I always seem to fall back into the trap.

I know for sure he doesn't like me - he's said it over and over because my friends can't shut up about it. Ever.

I remember that my BFF went up to everyone and asked if I would look good with him and most of them said yes except for a few people. At first, he said yes then he revealed that the only reason he said that was because he thought I liked him. I don't know if denying this repeatedly is the right thing to do but it's embarrassing to admit it and then be rejected. I can't just waltz up to someone and talk so I need advice on getting over him.

Also I left out that everyone ships me with him and apparently it's obvious that I like him, so it's hard to get over it with everyone talking about it. My supposed "bff" also thinks that he likes his ex who is also my friend (she was cool with me liking him in the first place) and I'm starting to believe her.

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This sounds kind of confusing altogether, especially with your friends also thrown in the mix. I know I've had friends who liked to meddle and make it incredibly obvious to my then crush that I liked him. Yeah, it's very hard to think straight with people trying to interfere and confuse you even more.

And about your crush, I don't know, I honestly think it could go either way. Your friend says that he might like a girl, and then another friend says he might like another girl, so I think you can't know for sure unless you hear from him who he really likes.

You can never count on rumours. They might be true and they might be wrong. You can never know, even if they're coming from your friends. I'd say you shouldn't trust them. At least not entirely.

As for the rejection part, I understand why you would be afraid to confess your feelings. Rejections are tough and they can make your confidence drop down to zero just by one single word uttered in a certain way, which is awful. But, they're also part of life and despite it all, they do have their own role.

For instance, you said that your crush said that you two would look cute together only because he thought that you actually liked him.

That either means that he wanted to please everyone else by saying yes - which doesn't quite make sense unless he's a people pleaser or was simply afraid of admitting otherwise - or it means that he said yes because he genuinely believed you guys would look cute together.

And another thing: the fact that he said he didn't like you when your friends just waltzed up to him and asked him that is something almost all everyone would've done in his place, regardless their feelings. My friends did that as well with one of the guys I used to like and he said no, even though his body language said otherwise.

Speaking of body language, I think you should study the way he acts around you. Does he find excuses to touch you? Does he try to make you laugh? Does he share more personal things about himself?

If you haven't had the chance to spend enough time with him yet, then you can also try and text him, if you feel like that's a mote comfortable way for you to approach him. These same things apply for texts - minus the body language. But the way he talks, his words, everything shows whether he's interested or not. Does he try to save dying conversations often? Is he teasing you? All these little things often speak louder then words.

And another thing: if you don't believe you're ever going to be together with him, that doesn't make it true. Anything can happen. Trust me.

Once again: I think you should try to spend more time with him without your friends. Please. No more friends meddling. They are definitely not helping and they're only making things more awkward because with your friends around, you will never be able to find out what you're crush actually feels.

This is not quite advice about how to move on from your crush, but this is my way of telling you that you should at least try to see what happens with him. As long as he's not seeing anyone, there's always a chance he might feel something for you.

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