I dated a guy. But it didn't work out because I only saw him as a friend. And I told him so, and now he is dating someone else. We used to talk a lot but we suddenly kind of stopped. We're not talking the way we used to.

Then he told me he's dating this new girl, and my best friend who literally knows everyone in our school and other schools as well didn't know her at all. He had jumped into a relationship so soon, I was kind of worried about him 'cause I didn't know that girl.

My best friend told me that I like him because I'm fretting so much over him, but I don't think I do. i just don't trust that girl so that's why I was worried. I just tought there might be something fishy about her.

I'm just afraid that he will forget that we are friends...

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Okay, this is a complicated situation, and quite frankly I didn't trust your feelings about him when I first read your message. It sounded to me like you really saw this guy as a friend and a friend only.

But as I kept reading, I realized that you are now in the exact same situation I used to be a few months ago.

And as much as I would love to confirm the fact that you definitely don't like him, I can't. I'm sorry, but I've seen this pattern before and I think that you might be going through the don't-know-what-I've-got-'till-it's-gone phase.

That being said, I think I'm gonna side with your friend on this one. There's a high chance you realized you might feel something for him the moment you realized he can no longer be yours. And of course, the fact that he seems to be distancing himself from you only adds to the pain.

I think you definitely like this guy. And your ego might be playing a huge role here too. I know I'm being blunt, but you might have trouble admitting your feelings because of your ego. Your dignity just won't accept it. And this is a normal thing people face, everybody is going through moments like these, so I don't mean any harm by it.

My advice for you is trying to move on from him. I'm sorry, but I don't think there's something else you could do right now. If he likes this girl, and my guess is that he does, then you should try to accept the fact that you lost him. Acceptance is the key in these types of situations.

When I read your messages I got this "vibe" of uncertainty from you, and I feel like you still might be feeling utterly confused because of this whole situation. And obviously that's more than normal, considering the fact that you went from dumping him because you didn't like him, from fretting over him because of his new girlfriend and wondering if you might like him after all.

Okay, I guess what I'm trying to say here is that you should take some time out and consider the option of liking him. Now, there are some things you can do in this situation, but unfortunately they all imply talking to him about it.

With his girlfriend in the middle, tough, I'm not sure telling him your feelings is gonna do much. Of course, he might realize he still has feelings for you too, but if he's truly in love with his new girlfriend, then you might just end up confusing him, and that's not good.

Okay, let's get to the girlfriend now.

You told me he just jumped into a relationship with her shortly after you broke up with him. The first thing I'm thinking is rebound. (Of course, there's always a possibility she doesn't actually exist, but that might be a little far fetched LOL)

He might have just gotten into a relationship with her to try and get over you faster, or because he wanted to get some "revenge". If that's the case then he might still have feelings for you. Have you seen the way he's talking to his girl, or the way he acts around her? (More importantly, have you ever seen?)

Try to analyse these things if you get the chance to. You might discover some interesting things about their relationship.

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