《Crush Advice》6. Moving on from your crush ( II )
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I had migrated from my girls school to a coed school. There I saw a guy. I instantly got a different feeling, but I brushed it off from my mind. I came to know that we were in different sections and it made me sad, and I had forgotten about him because I didn't see him that much.
After a month or so, I got to know that few students, including me, had been transferred from the previous section to 'his' section. I hadn't thought of him that much, but when I saw him sitting in the corner seat in the back of the classroom, I couldn't help but stare at him. He was so perfect and he looked like a Greek god to me. He didn't even bother to look at me during the whole day, but in the last hours of the school day, when I burrowed him a ruler, he asked for my name and we chatted a little.
The following day we also chatted a little bit more during the chemistry class, but after that nothing else happened.
I always found myself staring at him, seeing him smiling and talking to his friends. I tried so many times and prepared myself to get him out of my mind, but I'm unable to do that.
Now I'm in the last year of school and damn, he is still my classmate. Every day I get up from my bed taking this vow under my breath that I won't pay any attention to him, but as soon as I step into my classroom, some invisible force pushes me to look at him.
He talked to each and every girl in the class, and sometimes even with me but I know he doesn't have any feelings for me, not even as his classmate. It's probably because I have the most average looks in the whole class, and I don't talk with anybody. I have only one best friend.
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Please help me so that I can get him out of my mind and concentrate on my studies...
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Liking someone from your class is both a gift and a curse. I know that firsthand. It seems like a gift mostly during those first days, when you're only starting to like him, and everything is new and you feel like you're floating on a cloud all the time, and then you find yourself plummeting straight to the curse part, when you realize you need to get over him and you don't know how. And you're pretty much stuck. Not a nice feeling. I know.
But, there are some things you can try in order to stop feeling this way for him.
I sense that your main problem here is in fact the idolization, if I can call it like that. You mentioned that he is perfect in a Greek god kind of way, and that you can't stop looking at him. It sounds to me like you're more infatued with him than actually liking him or carrying about him on a more deeper level.
In your mind, he is the most perfect guy out there, even though you don't know almost anything about him. If that sounds familiar, then it's the case to stop and erase this perfect impression of him out of your brain.
Tell yourself that he isn't perfect. That he doesn't look like Adonis or Apollo. Find every single possible "flaw" he seems to be having and focus only on that, even if you're mind might be telling you that you're exaggerating. Repeat all these flaws inside your head every time you see him like a mantra, and soon enough, your brain will start to believe it all and with time, you should be able to stop feeling so attracted to him.
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: My advice is that you try and talk to him some more. Maybe strike up a conversation the same way he did. Ask him to help you with something, or ask him something school related. And if it seems like the conversation is about to die down, keep finding new topics to talk about. Try to get closer to him as much as possible and see how he reacts. If he seems friendly and opened to chatting with you, keep it going! You have nothing to lose, after all.
If you're still liking him then you definitely still have some hopes that he might like you back. In order to move on, you need to kill those hopes completely, so you may even try to ask him out.
I've said this before and I'm gonna say it again. I know it's scary but that way you will know for sure. Worst case scenario: he says no (which is actually not as bad as it might seem at the moment) and then you'll finally be able to move on from him. Which is exactly what you want. Right?
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Well, this is the advice we had for you, and we really hope this managed to help you in some way. Good luck with your crush and please keep us posted with your progress!
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