"I have been bestfriends with my crush since 3rd grade and back in August 2017, I realized that I liked him and even considered him my "first love". Then he asked my bestfriend out 'cause both of them didn't know that I had feelings for the guy. It hurt me so bad and it broke my heart.

And also on August 2017, I admitted to my guy bestfriend that I liked him. He said it was fine. Then after days passed, my girl bestfriend found out and hated me. I tried to apologize but she just kept ignoring me and continued dating the guy I liked. After that I realized that I'd been so stupid and that maybe I should just let it go for the sake of both of my bestfriends, so I stayed away from both of them.

My guy bestfriend noticed, so he asked me if I was ignoring him. I said no. Then we just continued talking 'cause I couldn't do anything about it. When my girl friend found out, she told me to stay away from him, and so I did, but he kept talking to me. Then I found out that they broke up, so I comforted my guy BFF.

But this April 2018, I found out that they got back together and it broke my heart all over again, and I figured that maybe I should move on from him. Sadly, it's easier said than done."

- NerdyMe07

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Honestly, having a crush is hard but moving on from your crush, that's a thousand times harder.

And yes, I think moving on is the best solution in your case. You have clearly suffered too much for something that after all is only bringing you pain. He is obviously in an on and off relationship with your friend, so you'd better just leave them at that.

So here's what you should do.

First of all, you need to convince yourself that he isn't good for you, and what better way to do that then by remembering all the things that he ever put your through?

I know it sounds depressing, but you absolutely have to make yourself realize that you are not going to be with him anytime soon, and that there is no reason for you to keep liking him anymore. In other words, quit hoping! Hope is what makes you still like him, and we don't want that, do we?

This may be a weird suggestion, but I've seen it in a video once and I think it actually might work. Try making a lost of all the things that you don't like about him, and focus solely on them. Even more, try to list them in your mind whenever you're seeing him. It will help you see the bad parts of him too, and soon you might even start to wonder what you could've possibly seen in him in the first place.

It is true he is your childhood best friend, but if you want to stop liking him, you're gonna have to distance yourself a little from him. He's going to notice that, but maybe just explain the truth to him and tell him that you need to spend more time by yourself and just realize what you really want. Try hanging out with him less. Maybe make other plans with some other people. See how it feels not being around him that often. It is hard, but it is worth it if you want to make this work.

I know what you're thinking. You're trying to move on from a crush, and now here I am with my crazy idea of getting yourself in the same hassle all over again. Well, yes, that's exactly what I'm saying. Getting a new crush will definitely take your mind off of your previous one, and if anything, this is probably the best solution if you want to move on from him 100 per cent. I know getting a new crush isn't like buying groceries, but I promise, it works.

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I really hope you found this helpful!And please keep me posted on your crush situation.

If you guys have something to add for @NerdyMe07's situation, feel free to comment down.

Thank you!