This person is getting jealous because the person who had a crush on this person is now crushing on some other person.

Hey!

You made a good choice by not getting into a relationship this early and seeing how he moves on from one crush to another over a span of a few months, clearly, there weren't any deep feelings involved. As you said, it was a crush and crushes only last for a short time. You should get into a relationship only when you're of a more mature age and mindset, and can handle communication with your partner well.

It's also nice to be self-aware of your feelings and emotions. It's a good thing to know and accept whether you're jealous or not. So be proud of the fact that you can identify and accept your emotions. Now that you have accepted and acknowledged to yourself that you are jealous, you can work towards letting that jealousy go. You acknowledge it, it is what it is, and you move on. As long as you don't let your jealousy affect your actions and words, you're okay to feel it. Just don't let it turn into bitterness or anger at another person. That does not make you feel any better, and it doesn't usually end well for anyone involved.

Now, as for your message about being lonely in school now that no one pays attention to you, I think you should try making newer friends online or in school. It would help a little just keeping minimal contact in the beginning. You don't have to find yourself a best friend. Just make good friends that are a good influence on you and don't gossip about others. As for the boy, in my opinion, you should try not to contact him that often if at all. It'll look wrong if he keeps in contact with someone he liked before even if it was for a short while, and the less contact you have with him the easier it will be to get over your remaining crush. You should also be careful to not contact him since you could end up liking him and that will be no good.

You can also engage in your hobbies or extracurriculars! It is perfectly okay to take some time to do things you enjoy, and it can also help you to find peace and contentment even with your peers not paying as much attention to you anymore. Your worth does not lie in the attention of others; it lies within yourself. You shouldn't worry much about other people who don't pay you mind. Play games, write, do arts and crafts, cook, bake, read, dance, run, do whatever hobbies or activities you enjoy, and spend time with people you love, be it friends or family.

You can't exactly get over jealousy and feelings in a few weeks or days, so just try to keep your distance from them and find yourself better things to do. So I suggest making new friends or finding something nice to do like art or reading novels in your free time at school. I hope this helps!

Thank you,

The Advice Column Team