This person is physically bullied.

Oh my dear,

I wish that you didn't have to be going through all of this. I wouldn't wish this type of emotional angst, pain, anguish, and confusion on anyone. I can't promise you that I can make it all go away, but what I can promise is that this will all cease if you just push past a bit longer and get out of high school for good.

The first thing I need you to do is tell someone. And I don't mean one of your inconsistent friends—I mean a trusted adult who will take the necessary steps to ensure that the victim is comforted and the abuser confronted. Please, don't be afraid of standing up to those disgusting excuses of human beings. You are only giving them power over you by being afraid. And there is nothing to fear in making sure that they meet consequences for their missing. They can't and won't be able to hurt you anymore. You are only as powerless as you allow yourself to be.

Second, I need you to find new friends. Please. People who won't stand up for you—those who are bystanders—simply aren't worthy of calling themselves your friends. You, as a person, deserve so much more than people who won't return all that you give toward them. And as a side note, your boyfriend sounds like a keeper, so keep a tight hold on him. 😉

Third, find some form of recreation to release emotions to better help you reign in all the crying as a result of being unable to express your anger. Believe it or not, but you can find so much relief in just hitting that punching bag when you imagine it being the face of someone you hate. It could be ballet. Yes, calmness in mind does help a lot (boy or girl), boxing, kick boxing, etc. Your options are only limited by yourself. Heck, go do yoga or meditation. This is about what makes you find your happy place be it whatever. And finally, I can't stress this enough, YOU ARE WHO YOU MAKE YOURSELF. Money does not a person successful. It just makes them financially stable. You are successful when you are happy. Money doesn't take you places; you as a person does. You are the one who sets the rules of the game. Remember that. In a society so driven by money, you'd be surprised at how far you can get in life without it. Engrave that sentence in your mind. If you believe that you are emotionally confused, you will be. If you make yourself weak, you will be. The opposite is just as much true. A small bit of belief can go a long way. Know that, no matter what, you are not alone. In your darkest hours, remember what you have to live for. So many people benefit from your existence. I believe that you can get through this. WE know you can get through this. And because I think that you don't hear this enough, you are an amazing human being who gives so much and has a light deep inside you that just shines so beautifully. Don't let anyone take that away from you.

All the best,

The Advice Column Team