This person feels like their anger is a lot.

Hello,

My first piece of advice to you is to find a new coping mechanism. Concentrating on something beside your anger is a good thing to do, but staring at another person may not be the best choice. Especially if you are staring at someone with an angry expression on your face. It doesn't matter what your intentions are. Glaring at someone is going to give that person the impression that you are angry at them or that you're just "a mean person" as you mentioned. Let's find another way to reel in your anger, or at least a different focal point. Perhaps stare at an animal instead if you can't immediately find another coping mechanism.

As for your issues with your brother, talking to him about them may be a good thing to do, but you have to understand as well that in the scope of it all he's not exactly in the wrong for thinking or feeling the way he does. I can't imagine you'd take kindly to someone glaring at you for no reason whatsoever. I suggest explaining your side of things, and telling him that it hurts your feelings when he says you're a mean person, but know that his feelings are justified and that you have things to work on as well. You will have to convey and untangle the misunderstandings first and foremost, give him your reasons, understand why he feels bad, and try to work on the problem together if you can.

I hope this helps, love. Don't hesitate to come back if you find yourself looking for more advice!

Stay strong,

The Advice Column Team