Well, here it goes.

I'm currently a 14 year old girl, and I've noticed that all anyone seems to care about is dating or sex or hot guys/girls. Two of my friends have boyfriends, and you can tell that one of my friends and her boyfriend are sexually attracted to each other in the sense that their make out sessions are pretty intense. But all of my friends have had multiple crushes and all the people in my grade, really. All any of the girls in my school could talk about after watching this movie in school was how hot the main character was and how they would totally f*ck him. Almost every day I hear boys in my classes talking about butts, boobs, and so much more.

The thing is, I don't feel like they do. I don't have any crushes on guys or feel any sexual attraction to guys whatsoever. I haven't ever had a crush towards anyone, as far as I'm aware. Sure, I notice when a guy is cute, but no more than when a girl is cute. It's just a person being aesthetically pleasing, like a painting or something. It doesn't make me feel anything more towards them. But now I think I might have a crush on a girl..? Oh god, I probably shouldn't even say that. She's an old friend of mine that I kind of lost touch with, but now we have a lot of late night texts and things like that. Not sexting or anything, just texting like friends would. She doesn't tell her friends (the popular kids), and I don't tell mine (the shy quiet kids) just because they would think it would be weird. But I don't even know if I have a crush on her, maybe it's just the fact that it's kind of like a secret friendship. I'm not sexually attracted to my secret friend's body, or any girls' in that matter. It's more being excited to see and talk to her, but I also kind of get nervous?

I'm sorry that this was so long and not very helpful, but I'm just so confused. Am I straight, gay, asexual, a sociopath?? Please help :(

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You're over thinking it. You need to calm down and relax about the situation.

You don't have to find someone sexually attractive. You're 14 years old! Act like it!

You don't need to be worrying about boys or girls sexually!

Boys are extremely hormonal at this age and anything with boobs and a heart beat they'll find sexually appealing. Not all boys, but most of them!

I can't be the one to tell you what your sexuality is. I know that you're probably scared because you don't understand what's going on with people around you and why you don't feel the same way they do, and it's okay.

I don't know why you get a little nervous in front of your friend. It may not be that you like her, you may just want to impress her, and since its a secret friendship then of course you'll be nervous because it's a secret!!

You really have nothing to worry about, you could honestly just be a late bloomer and you haven't developed that feeling yet.

Everything will work out for you at some point, hope this helps - xx

Oh, and you're definitely not a sociopath.