The Tuungane Youth Centre is one of the most active youth educational and counseling centers in the city. It is a treasure chest of knowledge and awareness, as it is an institution that offers guidance and inspiration to the youths. They get knowledge and wisdom that directs them in the modern evolving world and equips them with life-coping skills and virtues. It is a counseling and mentorship institute that is admired and respected by all generations.

Its design setting can hold up to one thousand youths, but on the day, only four hundred sat and waited for the day's discussion.

The wait was long, and when they saw the person in charge of the discussion walking to the hall's platform, they became glad, with others breathing sighs of relief.

Katelyn walked and stopped at the raised platform in the front of the hall and looked at the seated youths, "I am sorry for taking this long." She apologetically started, "I... have been shortly delayed with the discussion notes, but it is fine. I stored all the information in my head." She smiled, "We can start."

The youths didn't mind or show any condemnation. They believed she could store any information in her mind and recalled it, because she emerged as the second-best student at Elite School. And if you emerged among the top ten in the school, you were among the top ten most intelligent in the globe.

This was the reason why Katelyn became one of the administrators in the institution- her intelligence, and equally the wisdom she possessed through her knowledge of different experiences in life. The youths marveled at her insights and perception of the skills she had that addressed the modern affairs of their lives.

They had learned a lot from her, ranging from the most common phrases unforgettable to any one of them;

A mistake doesn’t always mean a failure. Directing your thoughts and desires instead of letting them direct you. Failure is not a defeat, but an opportunity to try again. Failure is the beginning to start wiser. It’s amazing what you can achieve if you have passion. It’s not what happens to you that matters, it’s how you choose to respond to it. Opportunities don’t only bounce once in life, there are plenty. Pain can easily cloud a wrong judgment. Rising comes after falling, learning comes after mistakes. Sometimes the person you want most is the person you are best without. The path to success is never on a straight line. The reason why most people find it hard to be the best they can is because they are attached to who they are. We are all equally gifted, but differently. You can get there with your brain, not mind. You can succeed in anything, so long as you have vision and determination.

The phrases were common and unforgettable because they were pinned on a wall at one of the entrances and exit points of the hall. The youths tended to check the phrases from time to time when they came to the center in order to remind themselves about the affairs of their lives. They were always ignited positively by the phrases, especially if they were going through a rocky path or a challenge in their lives.

"Today we are discussing SEX AND PROTECTION." She wrote in bold on the chalkboard before her at the front of the hall on the raised platform and turned back to the 800 eyes staring back at her. She thought it would be easy. All the eyes at her seemed to be draining her confidence. Furthermore, this was the first time she was addressing the topic of sex before a crowd. It always came with its share of hesitation and anxiety, especially from most of the feminine gender.

But she forced the confidence determinedly. She was their youth leader, and she ought not to show weakness or lack of confidence from only the matters of sex. These were not traits of leaders.

She looked back at the crowd boldly, "I had prepared the discussion in question-and-answer form, based on the questions I received from you." She got out her phone and started navigating through it, "I have the questions here, and here is one; we all know that trusting our partners is vital because it eliminates doubt. So, my question is this; if we give in trust, is it okay not to use protection?" She finished reading the content from the phone and looked at the audience. The confidence was in place, and she was glad about it, "Let us share our thoughts on the question. If you have any, just raise your hands."

A couple of hands from the crowd were raised. She picked one.

"First of all, trust is important in any relationship." A man in one of the front row seats stood and said, "It means respect and honesty to both partners." He shortly paused, "I believe when there is true trust in a relationship, you can share yourselves without protection because you will be already respecting and honoring each other." He took back his sit as more hands were raised from the crowd.

"Thank you for your thought." Katelyn said and picked another hand, "Yes, please?"

"I want to differ from that guy's point with a question." A lady stood and said, "How will you be able to know or tell that there is true trust in a relationship? That's all." She inquired and immediately sat down.

Katelyn got back to the first person she chose with a friendly smile, "I believe that is a challenge."

The man once again rose from his seat and faced the crowd, "True trust comes from partners who respect and honour themselves." He said and sat.

Another man on the same row of seats rose and looked at Katelyn, "Kate, the truth and the matter of fact here is that partners will use protection in the beginning of their sex life and later on stop after the sex becomes regular. And this is from all partners, even those who trust themselves. Others believe that sex should have a juicy thrill, and using a condom kills the thrill."

His point resulted in murmurs and whispers across the building's hall. Katelyn chose a third hand in now possibly a half-raised from the crowd.

"Some of us are just brainwashed by our beliefs!" A lady said, "Sex has the same thrill with or without rubber."

The murmurs and whispers got louder as raised hands scattered all over the hall.

Out from the second row of the sitting arrangement, a figure slowly rose from its seat and walked to the platform. Katelyn saw it, and instantly, her heart started pounding with a new rhythm.

She hadn't seen nor heard from him in a week. It had been a torturous period in her heart- just to see him, hear from him or even feel him. It was as if the most beautiful thing that had ever happen in her life just vanished. She wanted to call and hear from him, only to be sure that he was alright, but her feelings couldn't let her. A kind of woman conservativeness in the matters of the heart, even from those who were modernly accustomed to the belief of equality in all the genders. The only option was to keep waiting, and she waited with anxiety, uneasiness and anticipation, until the very moment.

He reached her on the platform and she felt smitten by a sudden spasm on his physique and an alluring whiff of his perfume.

Lei briefly smiled at Katelyn on the platform and turned to the babel of tongues from the crowd, displaying inviolable confidence, "I apologize for the change of plans, but allow me to lead the discussion." He said with polished ease.

The noises from the crowd had already started subduing the moment he began talking. Almost 50 percent of the audience was present when the new man was in charge of a particular discussion not long ago. He showed remarkable intelligence and insight, and he looked informed and competent. It made him earn their respect, admiration and homage."

Lei turned to Katelyn with almost a whisper, "Trust me, beautiful, if you throw men in the matters of sex, you will have a terrible headache at the end of it. I don't want that to happen to you."

Katelyn cheerily smiled, "Okay."

"Thank you." Lei smiled back and turned to the now quiet crowd, "If we want to fully understand and be satisfied with the world of sex and protection, we will have to explore everything in the sex life of the modern era, our era."

"My fellow youths, sex may appear as easy as getting undressed, getting in, and finally getting out, but in our generation, there is more to that. Sex in our era is a whole wider as life itself, and many of us don't know all about it. That is why we are going to learn together and start from the very beginning in the life of youths and sex." Lei turned to Katelyn with a smile, "Chalk, please?"

Katelyn freely gave him a chalk.

"This is where we are going to start." Lei got to the chalkboard, "You are going to give me the reasons why we, the youths, engage in sexual activities then we explore the reasons one by one. Let's go..."

The crowd stared back at him, silent and incredulous.

"Okay... when I say let's go, I mean it's time to raise hands and give me the reasons." Lei offered.

The crowd showed understanding as two, three hands were raised. Lei picked one.

"I think one will be the need to do it. Where one feels if he wants to do it, he can just do it."

"Exactly." Lei wrote the point on the chalkboard, "This is where one makes a choice based on his free will. It is the person's free will and decision without any internal or external pressure or influence. In short, if the person thinks or feels like having sex, he will go ahead and have it."

"That is a brilliant point. Another?"

A part of the crowd now appeared into the topic as more hands were raised. Lei chose another.

"I also think the parties and fun stuffs count as a reason." A man said, "One can decide to have sex for... let's say excitement or adding more fun to the party."

Lei nodded, "That is absolutely right. For pleasure, adventure, or fun purposes." He wrote the point then faced the crowd, "This is among the top reasons why youths engage in sex because we party a lot in this generation. It's not even on the weekends anymore. Today parties are organized in the middle of a weekday, and mostly at night. I have never even come across a youth party in the daytime. And at night, the atmosphere, pleasure and excitement are the factors that lead one to sex, especially the quickie romps. That's us, guys, we can't dispute it."

There were amused expressions from the crowd. They were now absorbed and occupied in the topic.

"To the next one."

More hands were raised. Lei again picked one.

"There is for love reason." A lady said, "This is from lovers."

"A perfect point." Lei smiled at her and briefly glanced at Katelyn standing beside him then got back to the crowd. The glance fluttered Katelyn's heart with delight.

"Two lovebirds." Lei said in a well-modulated musical tone, "They have a fun romantic relationship and affection. They can both feel a magical spark in the relationship, and this makes them talk about sex. They come to a mutual agreement to be romantically satisfying each other." He once again turned and flashed a smile in Katelyn's direction before getting back to the crowd. This time around it was not only her heart that fluttered with delight, but Katelyn felt a faint trace of hormones rushing inside her blood. This is crazy!

"That happens, ladies and gentlemen." Lei walked to the chalkboard, resuming his natural tone of voice, "For romantic purposes." He wrote the point and turned back to the crowd, "We are good to go. Off to the next."

"Peer pressure also counts." A lady said.

"A good one, Miss." Lei gave credit to the point, "Peer pressure is also among the major reasons. Let me shortly talk about peer pressure. Many people believe that they can easily counter themselves from peer pressure or they know themselves better in that they can never be negatively influenced. But what you should know is that it is not easy to counter peer influence, because it can be a powerful and blinding force of influence. Sometimes you don't see it coming until it happens. It is difficult to control it, and I want to give you an example.”

“Picture this; a humble and morally upright youth. He respects himself and all around him. He understands the modern world and the values he grew up with. One day, by God's plan, he is called to a different place. Maybe for work purposes or studies. A different surrounding and environment unlike where he is from and used to. Everything in this new environment is different, different in a way he finds unusual. He gets friends. Friends who look to be living in this environment comfortably and easily. Time passes and he finds himself mixing with the friends, and soon, he finds himself in their activities. That is one."

"The second; we have seen that this youth is morally upright and understands the modern world. He understands youth life and has the values he grew up with. So, in this new environment, he will see that the values he is against are the values that define life in that particular environment. He will live with his values, but soon, he will come to realize that in order to fit and acclimatize in an environment, one has to adapt to its ways and customs- typical of when in Rome, do what the Romans do.”

“Therefore, as time passes, he will change his set of values to a given standard. A standard that according to him will not be extreme or overdone. So, if his friends use alcohol for relaxation or killing stress, he will use the alcohol, but never to a point of getting drunk. Or when his friends have sex for fun and excitement, he will follow the trend but making sure he always protects himself. That will be his given standard. He will only want moderation and limit in the ways of the environment, but not knowing that he has already been influenced by his peers."

"That is how peer pressure works, ladies and gentlemen. It is never easy to avoid it, especially if the environment is also pressuring. In order to avoid and counter it, you must have strong principles, values and tough personal decisions on the things that you believe are wrong and right, and having friends and surrounding yourself with people of equal mind. You must have ethical wisdom and live by the virtue. That is how to beat it. There is no other way."

The crowd clapped as Lei turned to the board to write the point, "Moving on we are..."

"Drug effects can also be a cause." A man said.

"Indeed it can, Mister." Lei accepted the point with a smile, "Drug and alcohol effect. This happens, especially in parties and fun joints. When one is in such scenarios, he can be drugged and engage in sex without his or her knowledge. Same to one who is high. We do all kinds of things when we are under the effect, and engaging in sexual activities is one of them." He wrote the point, "There are still plenty left. Let's move on."

"The world we are in can also be a leading cause." A lady said, "I mean, the world has become a changed place."

"Pretty good. The era." Lei wrote the point, "We live in a world of evolution in lifestyles and times, and they say that the Y generation is the blindest and lost." Lei looked at the crowd with a smile, "But I once challenged those who say so. I told them to look at history. There was once a generation that worshipped sex and nudity. The phenomenon was so common and openly practiced that no party or pleasure joints ever missed it. They were pleased with every sex drama and orgies that can ever be imagined. Even open display of violence and gore was never a big deal to this generation- for those who have watched Spartacus and the movies and series of such themes. That is why God sent Jesus specifically for them, and the other prophets, too. Which makes that generation the blindest and lost, unless two versions of Jesus and a dozen bunch of prophets are sent in the Y generation."

The crowd looked amusedly absorbed.

"We are blind and lost, yes, but not the most. Man lives the way he pleases in this era. It is an I don't care era, pretty much our own words. We are encouraged by the trend to believe that our life is our business and a no damn of anyone else's. We can do whatever we want with our life. If it is sex, then it is our business." Lei smiled at the crowd, "We can move on."

A man stood, "Some dressings of women is also an issue. Some just put the tempting dresses."

There were laughter and murmurs in the hall.

"Yes, man." Lei quietly laughed, "But your point, Mister, is a constitute of another. I am not saying it is wrong. It is right. I will tell you where it perfectly fits with another point." He politely ignored the man's point and moved to another.

A lady stood and said, "There are some beliefs or ways of life, especially in regard to women, that can be a cause. Beliefs such as when a woman attains maturity- that is when they start period and show breasts and hips, they should engage in sex so that the... vagina is kept in shape." She looked at Lei, "I don't know if you have ever heard of such beliefs."

"Yes, Miss, I have heard a number of such beliefs, that I call concepts and beliefs." Lei said, writing the point on the board, "Just as you have said as one of these beliefs, when a woman matures, she will need to exercise and shape her vagina. This is due to the belief of easy penetration and enjoyment of sex. Another belief is that when a woman ages, her girdle muscles and bones progressively close the vagina together. So, if she is a good girl who values herself and decides to wait until marriage, let us say at 25 and above, the pain she will feel when opening up to the husband for the first time and maybe days to come will be intense. There will be no pleasure but pain so that the girdle muscles can relax and give room for comfortable penetration. It is believed the pain can even make a woman hate sex_"

"But women in earlier generations did wait till marriage!" A lady in a black hijab seated in one of the seats at the front row suddenly said in a tone of severity, "That is a lie!"

"You don't have to worry about that, sweetie." Lei looked at her with a smile, "These are just misconceptions and misleading beliefs. But even if any were true, for the sake of not worrying you, we are in a changing world. There are now lots of penetration aids in the market that will reduce the pain and make it a neutral pain-pleasure zone, and I hear women like that zone a lot."

Laughter filled the hall.

"Alternatively, you can be doing exercises, especially workouts that relax your lower regions, like the kegel exercises. So, don't let these misconceptions and misinformation worry you. Don't even believe in them. There are plenty out there, but they are just myths and theories, never proven facts."

There was great applause and cheering from the crowd, especially from the ladies.

"Thank you." Lei smiled appreciatively, "Let's move on." Before he chose another person from the crowd, he turned to Katelyn beside him, "By the way, why don't you also tell us one?"

Katelyn looked at him tenderly, "Sure. A factor that can also lead to the act is external pressure and, or exposure."

"Absolutely magnificent!" Lei gave credit to the point with fervid enthusiasm, then turned to the crowd, "That is a powerful point, one I would refer to as external or western influence and pressure, and worldly exposure." He wrote the point.

"Sometimes it is really not our fault. It is just not. It gets to us when a country out there legalizes sex at the age of sixteen when Biblical and our ways here state that it should be kept closed till marriage. It is no different when we see pornography contents that are now all over like sand in water. This will influence us as long as it is in our lives. In our topic here, the pressure, influence, and exposure mostly come from celebrities, social media and the internet, entertainments and new interactions."

"Let's move on."

A few hands were now raised. Lei picked one.

"How about achieving something in return... like in the case of sugar mummies and daddies?" A man said.

"Oh, yeah, that greatly counts." Lei nodded at him, "To achieve or get something in return." He wrote the point, "By the way, there was a point earlier about some dress codes which women put that are tempting. That point perfectly fits in this."

"The point here is where youths use their bodies and charms to get something they don't have, something they desperately need, something they cannot afford, or simply to live in a certain class of life. Women mostly do this, but men are increasingly getting into the trend. It also happens to the bisexuals, especially men, where they have sex for money and also have sex with their female partners because of love_"

A lady in the crowd suddenly raised her hand.

"Yes..." Lei picked her.

"Before you proceed any further, let me take you shortly back where I am kind of lost." The lady said in an aporetic expression, "Do you mean that these tempting dress codes we put are specifically to achieve something in return? And maybe if you can, or the person who came up with the point, describe the tempting dress codes."

"A good question." Lei smiled at her, moving to the crowd at the edge of the platform then stopped, "In order for the odds to be higher in achieving something in return, a woman must be beautiful and gorgeous. Therefore, the woman will be in modern fashionable codes. That is how it works." He looked at the lady behind the question, "I believe you know the descriptions of modern codes. One is to show out the curves in your body and the nature of the body itself, which can be tempting to any man's eyes. That will make modern dress codes an attention to all men."

"But being in these codes doesn't always and specifically mean you are in to achieve something. It is a modern trend. We move with trends. You may be in the dress code in order to be recognized in the modern trend. Nevertheless, you should also know that these codes cause attention and temptation. One may appreciate that you look lovely and beautiful- that is attention, and another will see you sexy and sexually attractive- that is temptation. But the thing here is, most of these codes will make women have sexually provocative physical features, which will make many men see such women sexy and sexually attractive."

"Are you content with the answer?" Lei looked at the lady behind the question.

"Yes, I am." The lady nodded with contentment.

"That’s nice." Lei said then faced the crowd, "So, ladies and gentlemen, that is how sugar mummies and daddies' affairs work in achieving something in return, and dress codes- with individual appearance, greatly influence the outcome of the affair. It is why I have talked about it."

"We can move on."

"Sometimes we get carried away and do it with our friends or people that aren't our partners." A lady said.

"Well said." Lei walked to the chalkboard, "Feelings of lust. This happens with friends, peers or acquaintances. Let me give you an example; John and Mary are in a relationship that is smooth and okay. They love each other and they are both committed in the relationship.”

“One day John introduces his best friend- Tom, to Mary. After knowing each other, Tom and Mary realize they get along very well and feel comfortable in each other's company. Mary finds that she can talk to Tom about anything and comfortably, which increases their connection and like towards each other. And by the way, the feelings Mary has for John hasn't changed. She still loves him and their relationship is okay. The only new difference is that Mary has developed an easy and comfortable friendship with Tom, and they get along very well."

“Now, let me tell you something here, guys. In most cases where such friendship becomes comfortable to both the parties, a connection will develop between them, and this will not be a friendly connection, but a connection of attraction. This is the truth I am telling you because we are humans with feelings and emotions and hormones. Those are the things that put down our relationships. The things that betray us and make us do mistakes as long as we are in a relationship. There is no escaping it, or ignoring it, no matter who you are. Even prophets were entangled in it and some made grave mistakes and still others perished in its hands. If you know your Word well enough, you would know the prophets that I am referring to.”

"Anyway, back to Mary and Tom. Mary goes to visit Tom- maybe because she would like his help in choosing a gift for John for an occasion or she has a problem and feels comfortable sharing it with him. But one way or another, through this connection of attraction that developed between them, they both start feeling a tempting atmosphere between them. Then they wonder if one time can actually do any harm. Their minds get blocked and feelings take over."

The keen attention from the audience left the hall in total silence with all eyes at Lei.

"That is how lust happens, ladies and gentlemen. It is a strong sexual urge, and when it is over, probably one would come back thinking straight, sometimes hating or regretting what they did. But this will be in rare occasions. In most occasions, it usually leaves the two in confusion, especially if the sex was great. It will boost the attraction they have between themselves, and they wouldn't know what to do as the feelings towards each other continue to grow."

"Any other reason?"

There were two hands raised. Lei picked one.

"Another reason is the swinging trend."

Lei smiled at the lady behind the point, "Mmmh, indeed a typical city girl. The swinging trend is so right." He wrote the point, "This type of activity is mostly practiced by married people, but those in committed relationships also do it. It involves people from the same circle, meaning same common interests and the likes, coming together and agreeing to exchange partners for sexual intimacy."

"It is a new thing, but gaining popularity. I know of people who do it and they say it is comfortable and healthy because it is between people they know. It is an agreement that is comfortable to all." Lei turned to Katelyn with a humorous expression, "I wonder how on earth I can be comfortable agreeing to share my girl." He turned back to the crowd, leaving Katelyn in a stinging delight, "I wonder how such an agreement can be complacent."

The crowd bubbled with laughter.

"I saw two hands." Lei continued, "The last?"

"How about doing it with an ex?" A man said.

"Absolutely right." Lei wrote the point, "Possible pressure or need from a previous lover. This happens, fellows, especially if he was an iron performer compared to the current partner- and the same also goes for the female partner. If she was so good with sweet moans and motivated the man in that they both always ended up having incredible great sex…”

There was laughter filling the hall as Lei addressed the point.

"Quiet." Lei smiled amusedly. He could also see the amusement from the point, yet the point itself was far from complete, "It is true. There are ladies out there who motivate the man so incredibly that his orgasm will extend and extend and extend, causing the heavenly sweetness- so they call it in the land of coition, and equally, there are men who get in there without a joke. They touch every surface in and out and perform like a machine, which will make the lady desperately begging for more and more."

The crowd once again erupted in laughter. Lei gave them time before continuing.

“Moving on, we also have other reasons such as if you didn't fully get over yourselves, or if you become close friends later on after the breakup. But I do not mean that it is guaranteed to happen if you become close friends. I mean that there is a LIKELY chance it may happen if you are close in this friendship you would have created- and especially if you had been active in it." Lei paused, "Pressure or need can occur from the previous partner, and it may be willing to both the parties." He once again paused, "Any more point?"

No hand was raised. The points seemed exhausted from the crowd's expressions. So far, almost all looked to be enjoying the gentleman's level of knowledge.

"Long distance relationship can also make one engage in the act." Lei said, writing the point, "A pressure can occur if a lover is not around, especially if a personal friendship transpires between two people while the lover is away. The friendship can become comfortable and intimate, leading to the act, just like I have explained in the previous point." He paused, "There is also the unexpected or unprepared circumstance. I will use an example from a friend. His name is Kevin."

"Kevin was invited by a friend to a small night party in an apartment away from public attention. There were quite a number of men and women, making a total of about eleven."

"The party was organized well and everybody was having fun; the music, drinks, food- everybody was having a good time. But a couple of minutes later, Kevin started noticing something unusual from the women. They appeared to be getting unusually high. This was different, because soon after, they all seemed to be getting heavy and dizzy, and some were nearly unable to dance or hold onto something. At that very moment, the music's volume was increased, filling the room with much more beats than needed."

"Shortly after, the women started dropping down, helplessly. It came to Kevin with a stab of enlightenment; something was added to the women's drinks without their knowledge. He had no idea that was how it was planned. In the end, he told me he witnessed a wonder that will forever remain stuck in his mind."

The crowd's eyes were at him. They were looking intently absorbed.

"By that, ladies and gentlemen, among many other ways, is how rape happens. It usually comes unexpected, and according to statistics, many rape incidents go untold. Rape victims never like to talk about the ordeal, even the youths and the grown-up. I believe you know why that is."

Lei wrote the point and then continued;

"The last reason we will be talking about is situational choice." He wrote the point as well on the blackboard, "A situational choice forces one or gives one the one and only choice to engage in the act. It is mostly dependent on making a choice between impossibility. Picture this; a final year female student is having her last examination on the next day. She is from a poor background and the only hope to make things better back at home. This alone made her a woman of principles and values, living a moral and upright life of hard work. And it has paid off since she is the top student in her course and well respected in the entire college."

"But the college had been picking more students. The campus residents had been full. So, it forced the administration to look for rental buildings, but they were not enough. Therefore, they took one desperate and dangerous step and hoped for the best. They rented a building that has the rooms on the top story and a bar and pub on the ground floor."

"The female student happened to be issued one of the rooms in the building. So, on the eve of the final examination, she is still studying in the library until late at night. When she is done, she walks to her room, and remember she has to walk past the bar and pub floor in order to get to her room. But upon getting to the bar, a couple of drunkard men block her way and start the usual boorish and crass behavior all drunkards have. She naturally feels uncomfortable and irritated by this and politely tells the men to let her go, but her polite notice doesn't work.”

"It forces her to be slightly aggressive, but the men still persist stubbornly, until one of them knocks down all the beers on the table after realizing she will be hard to seduce and then calls the manager. The guy put it on the innocent lady, telling the manager that she is rude, bad-tempered and doesn't have a simple way of making a conversation. Of course, she denies the allegations, but which bar wouldn't want to please and be on the side of their regular customers? One man suggests that she co-operates and satisfies his and the friends' needs for the situation to be forgotten. But she refuses and says rather the law handle the problem. She knows her stand, and will never accept being treated unfairly and unjustly."

"And so the police are called, but things fall further apart on our poor lady. She is taken to a holding cell for the case to be heard and cleared the following day. She is so terrified for her future and hard work." Lei paused. All the crowd's eyes were at him.

"In the cell, the duty officer offers to grant her a choice, because he knows hers is not a case and it is even likely to be forgotten about come morning. He tells her to do one thing for her immediate release, and it turns out to be the same thing the men from the bar wanted. Fearing the stake of her future and all the hard work and effort she has gone through to get to where she is, she bitterly and sadly decides to give in."

The crowd looked touched and absorbed.

"That is an example of a situational choice, among many other different types. It usually gives the one and only choice to make."

Lei now focused on the crowd intently;

"My fellow youths, as you can see..." He pointed at the chalkboard, "There are a dozen reasons pressuring, influencing, forcing, or making us engage in sex and sexual activities. You can now see that the reasons make sex in the Y generation a big deal."

"And so, guys, the question of trust only sounds tiny when we put in all the reasons we have mentioned. One way or another we engage in sex for one or more reasons above. Your partner may fall victim to a situational choice, unexpected or unprepared circumstance, possible pressure or need from a previous lover or feelings of lust towards a friend, and may feel embarrassed or ashamed to let you know, thereby deciding to keep it a secret and hope it will be for the best. It is always hoped for the best, anyway in such circumstances."

"By this, the only power that can work best more than trust is protection. It will protect your partner even if you fear telling him about a situation- fear about the possible end of the relationship or getting afraid you wouldn’t be forgiven."

"So, ladies and gentlemen, include protection in your relationship and trust. PROTECTION will clear your worries and your partner will be safe even if you have the fear of letting out a situation that caught you by surprise and you couldn't think, or you didn't have any other choice. And by the way, just like I said earlier, the emotions, feelings and hormones are what make us humans. We are not a perfect creation because of these.”

“There is no relationship that will ever be perfect because of the imperfect nature that we have. Your partner can make a mistake and decide not to talk about it and forget it. But it doesn't mean there is no love in your relationship or there never was. It means your partner is human, and all humans make mistakes. Let protection safeguard you when this mistake happens."

The crowd tremendously applauded with whistles and cheering.

Lei smiled proudly, then resumed the discussion after the applause faded out, "By the way, if you can allow time we learn something else, it will be of great benefit." He looked thoughtful, "I remember one person talking about rubber... killing the thrill of lovemaking. My friend..." He paused, seemingly with a sudden thought, "You know what, guys? I would rather call upon somebody with great knowledge on the subject to educate us in the topic." He smiled and pointed at Tyson seated next to where he had sat, "You, Mister, come here."

Tyson stared at the friend on the platform with a forced awkward smile, then turned to Michael on his left who was enjoying a packet of his favorite crisps, "I can't believe he is capable of crucifying someone in such a way!" He said, mildly surprised.

Michael looked at him with a cheered-up smile, "Your bad and business, you monkey. Stick to it yourself." He said and continued eating his crisps.

Tyson deeply exhaled while slowly standing from his seat, then walked to Lei.

"Trust me, guys, I have known this guy for a long time and his knowledge is superb." Lei assuredly said while holding Tyson's shoulder.

"Thanks, Lei..." Tyson started as Lei moved to Katelyn.

"Thank you." Katelyn whispered at Lei with a grateful smile, "I don't think I would have pulled off as great as you did!"

"It's called a helping hand... to the one you care about." Lei as well whispered with a smile, "I am more glad and happy that it makes you happy. You have a beautiful smile. It's killing me!"

Katelyn amusedly smiled with pleasure. She was now positive and sure of what her heart felt.

"... First of all," Tyson was saying, "We should all know that the idea of condoms was never thought by overnight and used in the morning. It had to be keenly researched upon the possible factors that could hinder lovemaking. When these factors were found, they were eliminated by coming up with a new different idea. It had to be an effective, aiding and safe idea. And I am talking about the modern-day condom."

"Second, we also need to know that lovemaking is a natural occurrence. Anything that has to be used in a natural state of human life usually comes with great observation, attention and care. This is because in most cases, rectifying a natural state of a kind usually involves tiresome and laborious work. That is why when the idea of condom came, the research made sure it doesn't interfere with or hinder anything apart from PROTECTION."

All the eyes in the hall were keenly at him.

"Even its use in relation to the thrill of lovemaking was also observed." Tyson said and turned to Lei, "Would you care to tell us when men reach their climax? And that is the highest possible pleasure point a man can attain, which is also the highest possible thrill in lovemaking. Is it before, during, or after releasing?"

Lei stared at the friend with slightly distended eyes, finding the question awkwardly rhetorical, "I guess... it is during releasing?" His answer sounded uncertain, so as to also surprise the friend.

"Exactly, during releasing." Tyson smiled then got back to the crowd, "All men on the planet, be it a Chinese, a white guy or a black guy, get to their climax during releasing. That is when the climax comes, and whether you are in a condom or not, you can perfectly still release."

There were laughs in the crowd.

"So, gentlemen, with or without the condom, the pleasure, or thrill, will still be constant. There will be no change at all. Whoever came up with the rubber idea didn't mess, hinder or change anything that you are supposed to feel during sex. His main and only agenda was not to let your load get inside the woman without interfering with anything else, and he successfully did that."

The crowd applauded enthusiastically.

"To the women..." Tyson interestedly rubbed is hands, "I would like one smart lady to tell me where the main pleasure zone in a woman is. Whoever will tell me this zone, I will buy her a lollipop after this."

The crowd laughed, and immediately, dozens of hands were raised. Truly and modernly well-informed.

"Wow! You are all obviously smart." Tyson said and picked one lady.

"The main pleasure zone is in the clitoris."

"Fantastic!" Tyson proudly smiled at the lady, "After this, we are leaving together and I am buying you a lollipop."

The crowd once again amusedly laughed.

"Ladies and gentlemen, women have four pleasure points, or also known as zones. They are the clitoris, G-spot, inner and outer vaginal lips, and the vaginal canal. The clitoris is the main pleasure point. When she is excited or aroused and the knob rubbed, either by hand, sex toys or the penis, she will attain her climax. If it is the penis, it will still rub the clitoris when it is in rubber or not. Still, the penis will comfortably touch, penetrate and rub ALL the four pleasure zones with or without the rubber.”

“A condom will never influence or affect a penis' penetration and rub in these pleasure points. What will influence and affect it, including the sex as a whole and the pleasure and thrill of lovemaking, is the performance level of the act. How the sex is performed. If you are a one-minute man, the thrill will be killed no matter how you never use a condom. Same if you lay there like a dead log while he is performing. You will kill the thrill, and definitely, even if you are not using a condom."

"Therefore, ladies and gentlemen, the idea that rubber kills the thrill is just a belief based on psychology. It is a psychological belief that flesh to flesh is sweeter, and there is no truth to this because humanity believes in many psychological processes that are not actual or tangible. I will give you an example or two;"

"How many of you know football game? As in English soccer?"

Raised hands almost filled the hall.

"Perhaps I should reframe the question; how many don't know football? Or have never heard of it?"

There was no hand raised.

"Fantastic. Meaning you have all watched a football match. When there is a penalty shootout in a game, if you have ever watched keenly, you will see that the goalkeepers at times spit saliva on their gloves before the shoot. Does the saliva usually change the outcome of the shot? Or can it literally change the outcome apart from only a belief of satisfying preparation from the goalkeeper?"

"Another example is the farmers in the upcountry areas. Sometimes when they till the land, you will notice that they spit on their hands before holding the jembe. Probably you have ever asked yourself or the farmers the reason behind this. I still don't know the reason, but I am certainly positive it doesn't in any way influence or affect the energy or time frame of the tilling.”

"That is just psychology that cheats the mind on a belief that is not actual, even if it is meant to bolster confidence or anything from any of these psychological processes. You can cheat the mind, but not the processes in the body that are behind the tasks you do in your life with their different functions.”

"For those who may be lost or not following what I mean here, let me dissect it further to your understanding. What I mean is that our bodies have biological processes inside them- which everybody here knows very well, and these processes perform different functions that dictate what we do outside the body in the outside world. All that we do comes from the biological processes in our bodies."

"An important fact I want to put across here which you should take note of keenly, is that these processes in the body cannot be cheated or influenced from their working mechanism merely because of a psychological belief. Such influence can only happen in the mind, not anywhere else in the processes of the entire body system. This will also be the same with the belief that flesh to flesh is more sweeter. There is nothing that will make it more sweeter from the processes of the body unless it is something that comes out of belief. An example here is what I had shared with you earlier; the performance level of the act. This will have an effect on the process of the body that is in the function responsible for the sweetness part of sex. Why is this? Because it is an actual matter, an actual occurrence. But the mind will do nothing because it will only be a belief. A belief that I have told you is not actual. It will do nothing to make the sex sweet."

“But there is also another belief, or perception, that a condom reduces feeling, thereby affecting the thrill of the moment. The male condom is made thin to guarantee feeling isn't interfered with. Next time you see a condom, examine it keenly to see how thin it is. So, the belief that it reduces feeling is untrue. If you have ever heard about it, discard such a belief and take my factual and proven information."

There was great applause from the crowd.

"Ladies and gentlemen," Tyson continued after the applause, "Allow me to also give you important information about both the female and male condoms..."

"If we can only find a packet of condoms." Lei whispered to Katelyn.

Katelyn stared in surprise, once again feeling her hormones awakened.

Lei immediately noticed the meaning of her expression. Oh, God, She has got it wrong! "I mean, a packet of condom can be very helpful in Tyson's information." He promptly rectified his meaning.

"Oh!" Katelyn felt her body relaxing, "You mean if we can get a packet of condom for Tyson?"

"Yeah."

"We have plenty here. At every entrance in large boxes."

Lei turned to the Entrance and Exit points of the hall and indeed saw boxes labeled Condoms Here. He smiled at Katelyn, "Go get one packet."

The lady smiled then went.

"... Latex and polyurethane." Tyson addressed the audience, "But polyurethane is more expensive and less elastic, which makes it prone to slips and breaks. Other than this reason, it is odorless, less allergenic than latex, conducts heat better, and has a longer shelf life."

"Both the latex and polyurethane are lubricant-coated to facilitate penetration. They are also tested for holes with electric current and also subjected to water leak and air burst testing before they are rolled and packed, meaning a condom can never burst while on you. What usually happens is that they slip off or break, and this is due to the loss of elasticity caused by oil-based substances or the use of both female and male condoms at the same time. So, everybody here, never use two condoms at once or handle a condom with oil-based substances. I am going to mention and write all these substances." He looked at Lei, "The chalk?"

Lei gave him the chalk, "This, too, will be useful." He also gave him a condom in a wrapper.

Tyson took the condom and walked to the chalkboard, "We have petroleum jelly, skin oil, baby oil... cooking oil... mineral oil... skin lotions... margarine... butter... massage oil..." He looked at Lei, "Any I have missed?"

Lei looked at the list on the chalkboard, "There is also cold creams... and, of course, suntan lotions."

"Right." Tyson completed the list then faced the crowd, "Take note of these substances. Never touch them when you are going to touch a condom for use. The condom will most likely fail protection." He came to the condom Lei gave him, showing it to the crowd, "This is a male condom." He turned to Lei, "Do we also have female condoms around?"

Lei looked at Katelyn.

"We only have the male." Katelyn responded.

Tyson nodded, "Very well. Perhaps we will learn about the female condom another day." He turned back to the crowd, "I have heard and seen many people open a condom wrapper wrongly. It is not supposed to be opened by teeth, fingernails, scissors or any sharp objects, or in a rush. This is what you are supposed to do..."

At the sitting audience, Michael turned to a lady seated next to him with a thin smile and shaking his head, "This monkey is seriously teaching us how to open a rubber!"

The lady only smiled and turned back to Tyson.

"... Slowly and carefully tearing down the last tear edge of either the two sides of the wrapper." Tyson was saying, demonstrating how to handle a condom by tearing its last tear edge of the wrapper in his hands, "It is this safely easy. Then NEVER remove the condom with your fingers or any object. You are supposed to gently slide it out with your fingers through the side of the wrapper you have opened, like this..." He once again demonstrated by gently sliding out the condom with his fingers out of the wrapper, "And gentlemen, you are supposed to be hard erect before putting it on. Never rush in putting it on. Make sure you slowly roll it up the penis until it fits the erect penis."

"That is how you are supposed to handle a condom. But before you handle it, check the expiry date. Condoms also have expiry dates. If they look damaged, feel sticky or watery, have a colour that doesn't appear right, don't use such condoms. By this, make sure you open condom wrappers in sufficient light. That is how you can know if it has any defects."

"Also, store your condoms in a cool, dry place and never expose them to direct heat or strong light. You should also never unroll the condom or blow in air before putting it on. It will become useless. Lastly, just like I said earlier, NEVER use male and female condoms at the same time. This may cause them to stick together and slip off. Also, never use more than one condom at a go, with assurance or belief that you will be protecting yourself twice as much. What will happen is that they can also stick together and slip off. Use only one condom. It is guaranteed to give you all the protection you need, including the twice as much that you will be having belief in."

The crowd stared amusedly, but with absorbed keenness in the perspicacious and flowing information.

"If I can also touch on the female condom." Tyson looked at the lively expressions from the crowd, prompting him to continue educating them, "The female condom has already become popular, especially in cities, but it is still not readily available. And just like the male condom, it is an effective, safe and convenient means of protection against unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections."

"But concerns have emerged from both men and women that the female condom slips into the vagina or reduces feeling during intercourse because they are not as thin as the male condoms. These are just normal concerns, but they don't happen to everybody because many people have mentioned positive reviews on the use of the condom. Therefore, if either partner feels uncomfortable using the condom, you can use the male condom. They both serve the same purpose safely, effectively and conveniently." He paused, coming over to the edge of the platform.

"Ladies and gentlemen, it is not a secret that a larger percentage of youths engage in sex. It is not even taboo anymore. But it can ruin your life if you engage in it carelessly. Don't risk your health and life. Always use protection, because SEX WILL HAVE THE SAME THRILL WITH OR WITHOUT PROTECTION. All of you go with protection."

Once again, tremendous applause filled the hall. The crowd looked satisfied and content with the topic.

"This will ultimately make you and your friend important to the Center. Do you know that?" Katelyn looked at Lei with an enchanted warm pleasure as the crowd started to disperse after the forum.

"If you will like that, then we will try hard to be always here." Lei smiled back at her, "By the way, I will see you later, or definitely call you. I have something to do with the buddies waiting..." He gestured at one of the entrances and exits where Tyson and Michael stood.

Katelyn somehow felt wounded by the words. There was a strong wish and urge deeply in her that they rather remained and chat or he asked her out for a drink or eatery. What happened to dates? It had been a full week since she saw him or heard from him, and she had sublime anticipation and tingling expectation that if they were to see each other again, the gentleman would definitely ask her out on a date. She had to be right because she felt certain that the gentleman felt the same way she did towards each other.

But now... Or is whatever he is going to do with the buddies more important than what he feels for me? She suppressed the distressing feeling in her heart with a forced smile, "What did we talk about calling?"

"Oh... right, I almost forgot." Lei jestingly said, "I then promise not to call you." He blew her a goodbye kiss and left.

This was the ever first time a blown kiss had touched Katelyn. It penetrated inside her heart with a warm feeling. She had come to like and adore the feeling in her heart. A feeling of special pleasure that was worth having.

As Lei strolled away, Diana joined her. She was still at Lei walking to his friends.

"He must be a god!"

The sister's voice got Katelyn's attention. She turned to her in surprise, "You almost killed me! You said you will take at least ten minutes!"

Diana showed up a couple of pilled papers in her hands, "It was traffic." She looked at the pilled papers, "But they could have been useless compared to that guy's knowledge."

"Yeah, he was a miracle." Katelyn brightly smiled, her face glowing.

Diana nodded in agreement, "He was brilliant, right from the beginning!"

"Oh! So you were never that late?"

"I wasn't that late. When I came and saw him heading to lead the topic, I decided to take a sit." Diana said then cleared her face, "By the way, the guy, Lei, he is the one I was telling you about. The guy who overpowers me and turns my knees to jelly! You can see how amazing he is, right?" She smiled with softened eyes.

For a moment, Katelyn thought she heard the sister wrong, but her words came clear and lucid. Her bright eyes and glowing face suddenly stopped. She tried to swallow and talk at the same time but ended up choking on her surprise, "You mean the guy is him!"

Diana could clearly notice the surprise on the sister's face, "It must be obvious you also find him attractive and amazing."

"I only admire his intelligence, and only find Lemarh attractive and amazing." The words came out suddenly and uncontrolled from Katelyn's mouth, and she hated it. She hated the feeling of making sense and understanding why she had to say what she didn't mean.

They were always on the same side as sisters. She was the eldest and felt it was her duty and responsibility to protect and be on her younger sister's side without disappointment. If she breached this, then an ineffable hatred could occur between the blood sisters. This was the case because Katelyn knew if Diana hated, she hated with implacable resentment.

Diana gladly and happily smiled from the sister’s response, "He must be equal to Lemarh in everything!" She said with awe, "Same intelligence, handsome men and both irresistible! Imagine me and you having the most powerful men as our partners!"

"We will be happy," Katelyn said with a smile, a smile that when one looked keenly, could notice was faint and obscure.