Yahoo Messenger: 11 July 2001 11:54 PM

Subject: every relation has one who dominates!

julietscity: you have the same feeling as Ojas said... I dominate you... It is really a serious matter between lovers

romeobanglore: okay...

romeobanglore: I don't have the same feeling as Ojas!!!! you are just guessing!

julietscity: you said somethings you agree with me, somethings you disagree with me, those "disagree" mean you agree with Ojas. But I also want to protect my reputation among your friends...

julietscity: you must not let me be such an unreasonable person...

romeobanglore: Ojas didn't say it as a bad thing!!! he was just talking about the kinds of relationship!

romeobanglore: I told you ...you got the wrong meaning

julietscity: Ojas never guessed me ... he concluded from your actions and what you described to me

romeobanglore: yeah...mostly from what I told him...not from what he actually saw...that's the difference

julietscity: Hey... when you say "dominate" to anyone, it is a power relationship from top to bottom, everyone thinks it is a bad thing ... who would think it is a good thing?

romeobanglore: every relation has one who dominates! it's not a bad thing... it's natural...

julietscity: remember I told you I want to find someone stronger than me ... someone who can dominate my life and can stand in front of me to protect me...

julietscity: you should be the one who dominates me ... but our relationship has gradually become the kind of person who exchanges roles

romeobanglore: yeah

romeobanglore: because in my heart, I know what I am doing...

romeobanglore: if you become angry...I see it as a kid sometimes

julietscity: and... this is the main problem today... you are afraid that I will get angry, so you agree with me

romeobanglore: if you remember, there are many issues which I never agreed...even if you went mad

julietscity: your consent is because I'm a kid, and you give me candy, so I use emotion to blackmail you to dominate you

romeobanglore: of course not!

romeobanglore: I agree because I don't have anything against it

julietscity: only because you tried to calm me down, those issues turn into things you agreed to do

julietscity: about strict things ... this is how you think about me and the way I dominate you????

julietscity: when you promised me to do something and the promise didn't come true, or something could happen to stop the promise

romeobanglore: I tried to calm you down...but I never agreed with you

romeobanglore: that's different

romeobanglore: I don't promise things which I am not sure of generally

julietscity: In the beginning, I would strictly ask you ... but in the end ... after disappointment ... I quickly gave up...

romeobanglore: you are strict in time and schedule...that's not dominating...it's a part of character

julietscity: about your driver's license ... take it as an example

romeobanglore: you told me to take it as fast as possible...I didn't have anything against it!!!!

romeobanglore: so I agreed with you

romeobanglore: I realized that a little bit of strictness is good for me too

julietscity: regarding the schedule ... because our situation is different ... when you do not show up ... I can't go to your house right away to find you ... so it is important for us to arrange everything on schedule

romeobanglore: yes...I am not that particular in time...you are...so I try to keep up with you...you can't say that you dominate me, in that case,

julietscity: no... I remember you promised me ... but you still haven't got a driving license

romeobanglore: I have the learners...you know that time, we were discussing the US and license was very important

romeobanglore: later it didn't become

julietscity: now you said ... a little strict is good for you??? So ... what a bit strictness is good for you?

romeobanglore: because it makes me a bit disciplined...and that's good for life

julietscity: yeah... because after asking more than the third time ... I gave up and never mentioned it again ... until now ... because I can't lose my temper anymore ... although I did get angry with you because of this, still arguing with you

romeobanglore: hahaha... I know

julietscity: now I don't know what to say ... I hope you know what I mean

romeobanglore: I know what you meant...but as I told...you got the absolute wrong meaning

julietscity: Even my strictness with you once, twice, three times ... I will easily give it up ... it doesn't mean that I agree with you, because I have to find another way for myself ... I must learn how to drive instead of you (though I already know how to drive)

julietscity: no... I don't think I would be wrong about that word ... dominate ... ask someone about this word, is it a good word for people?

romeobanglore: yes...I understand what you are talking

romeobanglore: it's not a bad word!!!!

romeobanglore: Ojas also told that in some of his relationships, he is not the one who dominates

julietscity: He is used to being dominated by women, and this is the meaning of men who do not want to be responsible for sex.

romeobanglore: no... you don't know the context of our talk...that's the problem...

julietscity: and I hope you can continue to talk to me about these minor things ... it's important in our relationship...

romeobanglore: Ojas is senior to me...he is elder to me...but I don't treat him so...

julietscity: you don't treat him so? treat him what?

romeobanglore: that's how we started to talk about the domination in relationships

romeobanglore: treat him as an elder or senior

julietscity: and it's unfair ... when you talk about domination and my strictness or anger ... how can't I think this is a good word?

romeobanglore: hey...strict is not a bad character! being too loose is a bad character

romeobanglore: a little bit of strictness can straighten many things

julietscity: hmmm...you always say that

romeobanglore: because that what I believe! hahaha

julietscity: ok...too late now... You must have dinner now

romeobanglore: okay...

julietscity: be brave in things that might alleviate your pain

romeobanglore: too tired...

romeobanglore: like to sleep with you with your new hairstyle

julietscity: hmmm...yes...but we still have to wait

romeobanglore: hehehe... there is no suffering! don't speak like that

romeobanglore: hmmm...and don't shave your armpits also

julietscity: hey...please be serious...

romeobanglore: I love kissing there

julietscity: no way... it's still our summertime... too hot to keep armpit hair

romeobanglore: I am serious!!!!

julietscity: Take everything we talk about tonight seriously?

romeobanglore: but when I come to meet you, I want long hairs there!

romeobanglore: yes...dead serious... I don't think it a big thing

romeobanglore: you just made it look very big

julietscity: you should come when we come in winter

romeobanglore: and I am serious about the armpit also

romeobanglore: can't say that!!!!! you will get 3 weeks' time to grow your hair there!!!

julietscity: hmmmm... you really don't know what I'm talking about

romeobanglore: I will give minimum 3 weeks notice

romeobanglore: I know what you are talking about

julietscity: no...not really... because you don't think so or agree with me, or support my idea

Yahoo! Messenger: romeobanglore has logged back in. (2001/7/11 at PM 11:41)

romeobanglore: hahahaha...see...now you are not dominating

julietscity: ok... Let's stop talking tonight

romeobanglore: honey...I never felt any pressure like that

julietscity: bye now... it's too late for you and for me also

romeobanglore: not only tonight... let's stop this talking here

romeobanglore: okay... byeeeeeeee

julietscity: I will keep thinking about it and prove to you my own performance

julietscity: bye

romeobanglore: I am getting angry now!

romeobanglore: you don't understand what I am saying...never ask me to tell all the things happened here

romeobanglore: you just take all those things as you like and start saying some things on that!

romeobanglore: okay...don't think of it too much

romeobanglore: bye

romeobanglore: final bye

julietscity: .bye