Yahoo Messenger: 11 July 2001 11:54 PM

Subject: the immense pleasure makes the occasional problems worth to bear

julietscity: hmmm... sometimes you should listen to Ojas's opinions ... sometimes it may become true... so... he is your best friend ... if my brothers have such friends ... as a family member I would be glad to know this

romeobanglore: sometimes he is very practical...sometimes very impractical...either extreme

julietscity: hmmm...dominating is not a good word...and this means...HE DOESN'T LIKE ME...

romeobanglore: we were talking about the relationship with girls...then he said, in our relation, you are the one dictating the terms

julietscity: when he said that ... what did you think? you know ... it's all-important for us ...

julietscity: haha... that's the relationship we get along with now, right? That doesn't mean I will dominate your life and make you suffer, right?

julietscity: what is your opinion on this?

romeobanglore: I don't know...sometimes I feel that I accede to your demands...but that's because I know you will be very disappointed and angry

julietscity: why I am the one who decides our relationship ... I admit it ... of course, I am.

romeobanglore: because I don't want to spoil your mood...when you become angry, you are out of control...I don't want that to happen

julietscity: that's not right

romeobanglore: in all my other relationships, I used to dominate... I never said "I love you" to anyone else!

julietscity: ok... why am I mad on you or angry at you ... let's start from scratch...

romeobanglore: that's right...you lose your senses when you are angry

romeobanglore: no... I'm too tired to discuss it

julietscity: when you promise me to do something but you don't ... that's why I'm angry with you

julietscity: but... I didn't ask you to do what you really didn't want to do ... did I?

romeobanglore: everyone has a reason to become angry...but to control the anger, one needs to learn

julietscity: hey...that's very important

julietscity: ok... now you tell me how to learn to control my anger...

romeobanglore: but in your case...when you control the anger, you punish yourself... and that way you try to avenge the person

julietscity: when I told you to leave me alone ... just gave me up ... why didn't you do this then?

romeobanglore: this is why...I know you are going to punish yourself...so I didn't leave you

julietscity: If you just turn away and leave me ... then my punishment will only be against myself ... you will never get any revenge

julietscity: right?

julietscity: BUT...MR., that's the wrong

romeobanglore: when you punish yourself, it hurts me!

julietscity: you really don't have to endure all the domination I put on you ... when you are tired or unhappy to do so ... just leave it and I can understand

romeobanglore: but I don't become tired!

julietscity: but you become impatient and start telling me to control my anger

romeobanglore: don't ask me... I can't offer a readymade solution...one finds out a way

julietscity: become impatient or... hey... just leave me... it's okay. If I were you, I would follow my friend's advice to make a good choice.

romeobanglore: I don't lose patience in this matter

romeobanglore: leave it... it's tiring discussion

julietscity: hey... I never thought of developing our relationship in this way, but it hurts your place in your friends' hearts instead of enjoying it.

romeobanglore: hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha...you always get the wrong meaning!!!!!!!!!!!

julietscity: Ojas is right, Ojas keeps seeing your problem ... I only knew after you said it now that things are really so serious

romeobanglore: if I suffer something, that's because of the enjoyment I get

julietscity: No... This is an excuse you give yourself ... you need to face the problem, not just blindly to love

romeobanglore: I am not! why should I continue a relationship if it gives me only suffering???

julietscity: If I were a female Ojas ... you are another female friend of mine ... and when I know your situation or your thoughts ... I will say like Ojas and advise you to break up as soon as possible.

romeobanglore: it gives immense pleasure...it makes the occasional problems worth to bear

romeobanglore: hahahahaha female Ojas!!!!!

julietscity: I never thought of dominating your life, but I know that I am a capable person. As a woman, I definitely want to be a strong person, not a weak person

romeobanglore: hey! come on! Ojas didn't mean that!!!!!!!!

julietscity: you should follow your inner feelings to make your own decisions, not necessarily follow my opinion

romeobanglore: he just told about our small, small things!

romeobanglore: you have a wrong impression now

romeobanglore: see...so many times, when I say something frankly, you take the absolute wrong meaning

julietscity: because you always do this, and always have no decision for me

julietscity: everything is always "ok" for you ... or "what do you think"

romeobanglore: that's my decision

romeobanglore: that's because I am not much strict in things

romeobanglore: but you are...

romeobanglore: you know why this happens?

julietscity: because you never say too many small, small things, every time you want to say something ... I have to be shocked by all the questions you have

romeobanglore: I am not disciplined and orderly, you are very much disciplined

romeobanglore: where is the problem now??? I just said something... why you see it as a problem?

romeobanglore: too bad! you take the wrong meaning

julietscity: disciplined is one of my character

romeobanglore: I am not disciplined... so you always have something to say or change...

romeobanglore: and since my character is not so disciplined, I don't mind changing

julietscity: but you should carefully consider what I said, and judge for yourself whether it is right or wrong

julietscity: why do you listen to me? It becomes that I am in charge of everything. Do you know that it takes a lot of trouble to solve problems?

romeobanglore: if I have a strong opinion. I will do that... if I don't have any particular opinion...I agree with you

romeobanglore: you may remember some issues, where I have taken strong stand

julietscity: If you don't like the decision I made, you definitely don't have to put up with it, and then listen to others analyzing me as the person who controls all decisions

romeobanglore: nonono...stand a decision means to be strong

julietscity: then...when Ojas said that I dominate you

romeobanglore: I have taken strong stands in some issues... you may remember some...

romeobanglore: that's not the whole life or all the time...

romeobanglore: some small things...

julietscity: you should say that because you agree with this decision, we have reached an agreement after discussion

romeobanglore: said what?

julietscity: hey... Don't treat any small thing as an accidental small thing ... the reason for those lovers who finally separated is because of small things!!!

julietscity: when Ojas said I dominate you, you should say that it is a common decision after we have discussed

romeobanglore: so far, I don't feel unhappy...that's what is important

romeobanglore: I didn't tell him that...

romeobanglore: I told him, that you sometimes seem to me like a kid...

julietscity: we've discussed all small or big decisions, right?

romeobanglore: maybe we discussed...somethings we didn't discuss

julietscity: there is only one thing I have never discussed with you because that is my decision and my choice... just ask you to leave me... other things, of course, we have both talked or discussed it

romeobanglore: yes...so?

julietscity: that's the point of what I said tonight ... when I heard you say that I am dominating you ... I really don't think my behavior is the kind of person you think

romeobanglore: what?

julietscity: I never thought about being someone like you said ... if I did it before ... you should tell me or remind me

romeobanglore: I never felt so!!! I told you that!

romeobanglore: Ojas said it because of some reason...

julietscity: You can't spoil me and make me an unwanted person

romeobanglore: hahaha...I don't!

julietscity: there are some reasons he thinks you also agree with him

romeobanglore: I don't agree with him... somethings I agree with you, somethings I don't

julietscity: you see... every time when you need to choose one side, you are always flattering and staying innocent

romeobanglore: what's the need to choose one side? when we can keep both sides good?

julietscity: and again...I have to tell... I have never really tried to control your life ... or control everything, even small things, I think after discussion, there may or may not be a consensus

romeobanglore: hey!!!!!!!! you got the wrong meaning

romeobanglore: I told you that...dominating does not mean controlling exactly!

julietscity: you always have your own opinion and a firm stand on things ... except for things I mentioned

julietscity: they have the same meaning

romeobanglore: yeah

julietscity: don't care if I get angry with you ... if you think you did it right, it's your own decision...

romeobanglore: I don't understand too much...

julietscity: You don't have to live with things that will make you angry or be laughed at by friends

romeobanglore: yeah...I want to tell you that I am happy with our relationship